Men on the other hand were a mixed bag with some of them recognizing, accepting, and embracing the title of an 85%er, and some taking offense and reacting defensively. This group was either in denial or they just consider themselves 100%ers.
I fall into a third group who felt like the 85%er title was generous, when I really look at the situation objectively and make the comparison between my own and my wife’s “positive contributions” to the world I feel like 62%er might be more accurate.
Although I can’t speak for all men or all dads I would bet that the vast majority of men would be lucky to be considered 85% ers. In my case I blame my wife just a little for being an 138% er. I wonder if she might feel like she wasn’t pulling her weight if I actually did my fair share. Now this statement might make some people mad and it might not be true but I have to say that our culture and society has probably shaped my wife’s expectations of herself to be much higher than what I perceive is expected of me as an educated white male.
The thought process above leads me to an assumption based on my own experience about what role men or dads often play in the family. If your family was a small village who would play the part of the idiot? In my family it’s me, just as it was my dad, and I suspect this is the case in many if not most families. This is why my blog is titled the Village Idiot and it will be about me trying to move from being a 62% er to an 85% er.